But the Lord says,

Do not cling to events of the past

or dwell on what happened long ago.

Watch for the new thing I am going to do.

It is happening already—you can see it now!

I will make a road through the wilderness

and give you streams of water there.

Isaiah 43:18-19 GNT

Hello, friend.

In todays post we would be looking at dealing with break up.  The dreaded word especially when it is not mutual.  You might be thinking break-up, in a waiting series especially if you are single or in a relationship that you really are comfortable with and you both just vibe.

Sometimes, we must let go to embrace God’s plan for our lives.  Holding on too tightly to what we are meant to release can leave us without room for new opportunities.  You may have sensed that the person you are dating is not the one for you, perhaps you have had the nudge, the impression, word of knowledge confirmed in the scriptures.   

It is normal to feel conflicted about letting go, especially if there are no clear reasons for the breakup.  But, God is able to help us navigate this if only we ask Him and trust Him that His thoughts towards us are of peace to lead us to an expected end (Jeremiah 29:11).   There is a plan for your life, there is a plan for your marriage and it is a beautiful one.

On the flip side, some individuals need to break free from certain emotional wounds, beliefs, and mindsets that contradict God’s word.  These hindrances can prevent us from moving forward in alignment with God’s current direction for our lives.  

A breakup can signify the end of a situationship or a potentially beautiful friendship.  It can be especially painful if you felt certain this relationship was meant to be.  So why does this happen? The most common reason for a breakup is that one or both parties realise that the relationship does not align with their long-term goals. This could arise from personality clashes, differing values, or family disagreements. 

Another reason can be that they just do not want to continue and have just decided to do what they want.  That you heard from God does not mean they heard God.  They might have heard or perceived and not want it probably because of lack of understanding or depth in God.  We must realise that God does not force His will on people, He does advise us to choose His will because that is the best you can ever get.

Whether the reason for a break-up is valid or self-serving, a breakup remains a reality. It can be painful, especially after investing time in a relationship. However, as marriage counsellors often advise, “it’s better a broken relationship than a broken marriage.” While this sentiment offers some comfort, it does not diminish the hurt involved.

Here are a few thoughts on how to handle a breakup from a Christian perspective:

1. Be honest with yourself—if you need to cry, then cry.

2. Bring your feelings to God.

3. Seek counsel and succor from trusted individuals .

4. Reflect on what occurred, allowing yourself to process the experience.

5. Focus on healing before entering into another relationship (Heal before you cleave)

6. Take time to understand yourself better and strengthen your faith through scripture.

7. Ask God for the grace to prevent bitterness and to keep your heart open to others. If you followed divine guidance and things did not turn out well, return to God for understanding and clarity.

8. Embrace your singlehood while you await the wonderful plans God has for you.

Remember, each ending can lead to new beginnings.   Until next time, I leave you with this promise from Ephesians 2:20 MSG

God can do anything, you know, far more than you could ever imagine nor guess or request in your wildest dreams. He does it not by pushing us around but by working within us, His Spirit deeply and gently within us

Do have a wonderful week.